My Philosophy of Treatment and My Role

My job is to get you to where you want to be.

You can sum up my approach to treatment in this way: By unlocking the resources you might not realize you already have within you, I empower you to get from your current state to your desired state.

I believe that people have all the resources needed to solve their problems and get to where they want to go in life.

It’s kind of like at the end of the Wizard of Oz when Glinda, the good witch, tells Dorothy that she doesn’t need to be helped any longer. She’s always had the power to go back to Kansas.

“I have?” Dorothy asks. The Scarecrow exclaims, “Why didn’t you tell her before?” Glinda responds, “She wouldn’t have believed me. She had to learn it for herself.”

My job is to help you create the conditions where you can “learn it for yourself” and get to where you want to go in life – your next level in life!

The hypnotherapy techniques I use are about helping you find those resources within you that may have become dormant or inactive for a variety of reasons.

There are some presuppositions and beliefs that I have and impart to my clients.

First, people use their available resources to make the best possible choices.

People make the best choices they can with the resources they have available to them at any given moment in time.

In other words, people in general do the best they can with their available resources.

It’s about feedback, not failure versus success.

In general, there are just outcomes to our choices. Often, we tend to label outcomes we don’t want or like as “failures” and outcomes we want and like as “successes.” But these are just labels.

There is really no failure, only feedback from our environment about what works and what doesn’t work in getting an outcome we want. Outcomes that we don’t want can become learning opportunities instead of being seen in a negative light as failures.

This applies to just about any situation as long as it’s not a life or death one. We can apply this framework for most things in life, with the exception of flying a plane or performing lifesaving medical care.

When we view any mistake as a learning opportunity, we change our internal dialogue to a healing one. Life experience becomes an enormous laboratory for learning.

This then allows us to learn and grow from what was a previously frustrating and negative experience.

The map is not the territory.

We all approach life with a belief system formed from our early life experience.

Sometimes, we can respond and act as if these beliefs are reality. But the reality is that we cannot really know reality.

All our life experience is filtered through our very limited perceptual systems of sight, hearing, touch, taste, and movement. These systems are unable to capture the full breadth of the world around us. We can only see, hear, smell, and taste a small portion of the spectrum of light, sound, smells, and tastes.

Often, the world from which we developed these maps is constantly in a state of flux, sometimes rendering our maps obsolete. When we realize that a belief that we hold is no longer useful for the situation or territory in which we find ourselves, the best thing we can do is form a new belief that is more useful in that situation.

The question we should always ask ourselves is not whether a belief is “true” or “not true,” but rather whether it is “useful” or “not useful,” and whether it is “helpful” or “not helpful.”

Moreover, if it becomes clear that it is no longer useful, the best thing we can do is discard it for a more useful one.

Positive frame for optimal brain

When we’re pursuing some particular outcome, it helps to put it in positive terms.

This is an opposite from what many people do, which is decide what they “don’t” want instead of what they “do” want in life.

I have seen hundreds of clients come in and tell me what they want to “stop” doing. As a general principle, whatever we focus on tends to create more of it in our lives.

Because the brain doesn’t distinguish the word “no” very well, some clients tie themselves in knots by using “nots.” The words “no” and “know” sound the same in our brains. So, when we say: “I want no more sadness,” our unconscious mind is hearing, “I want know more sadness.” We’re telling ourselves to become even more sad!

Here is a thought experiment. Pick something and try to NOT think about it. When we tell ourselves to NOT think about something, we’re telling our unconscious mind to think of it. If I say to you: “Don’t think about an elephant right now! Don’t think about it in the least bit!” what’s the first thing that comes to mind?

Create a new reality by conceiving, believing, and achieving.

The human brain is an incredible and amazing organ. Because it does not distinguish between imagination and memory of an experience, it means you can create new experiences from thought alone.

The best way to predict your future is to create it from the unknown. What thoughts do you want to fire and wire in your brain? What behaviors do you want to demonstrate in one day?

The act of closing your eyes and mentally rehearsing the action you want, if you’re truly present, creates a pathway to change in your brain. Because the brain does not know the difference between what you are imagining and what you are experiencing in the 3D world, it means you’ve already begun to become the change you want.

You’ve begun to install the neurological hardware in your brain to look like the event has already occurred. Your brain is no longer a record of the past. Now it’s a map to the future. If you keep priming it that way, the hardware, which is your body, becomes the software program, and you may start acting like a happy person.

The hardest part is to teach our body emotionally what the future will feel like ahead of the actual experience. You can start feeling empowered before you have success. You can start feeling abundant before you gain wealth. You can feel love before your new relationship.

Waiting for something outside of us to change something inside of us is no longer necessary in this model. You can create new reality by causing an effect with the use of internal images, thoughts, and feelings to create external realities.

Defining yourself with a vision of the future is the way to overcome memories of the past and create a new reality.

Meditation is a creative method for evoking internal change.

Meditation is a tool that can help us sit down and disconnect from the external world, thus allowing us to create a new internal reality.

Where we place attention is where we place our energy. When we settle our body back down in the present moment, we change our internal chemical state and instruct the body to follow our will and not the reverse. It is a way to train the body to surrender to the mind, giving us liberation from emotions that chain us to the familiar past. It is also a way to develop our “observing” self, which is a powerful tool for defusing unhelpful emotions.

Meditation can be used as a change tool for our internal software.

This is the template I use with all my clients.

How would you like it to become your template for change in your life?

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